Harriet Jeanette Graham
June 28, 1922 ~ May 7, 2010
Harriet Jeanette Graham, 87, passed away on May 7, 2010. Among her many passions were family, politics, the advancement of equal rights for women, and being out in the natural world - particularly while birding and canoeing. Harriet was born in Des Moines, Iowa on June 28, 1922, the daughter of Flarra and Clarence Wheeler. The Wheeler family had been long established in Waynesville, Missouri, and the young family returned there soon after. Harriet married William C. Graham in 1944 and at the end of Bills service in WWII, the couple moved to Wichita, Kansas where they became active in Democratic politics. Wichita at that time was dominated by the Republican Party. Harriet and her husband were elected Precinct Committeeman and Committeewoman and worked with others to develop a reform slate of candidates that swept the County offices in 1958. That year Harriet ran for Clerk of the District Court, opposing an incumbent who had held the office for many years. The campaign included door to door campaigning, uncountable bean dinners and memorable electric pink and black campaign signage. Out of over 84,000 votes cast, Harriet won by a margin of 151 votes. During her two terms as Clerk, Mrs. Graham modernized and streamlined the office systems and processes, hired her staff on the basis of ability, and presided over moving the Clerks office into the new County Courthouse. In 1964 she became the first female elected to the Kansas State Legislature from Sedgwick County. As the lone female in the House, she served on the Roads and Highways Committee, Education Committee and Welfare Committee introducing numerous legislative measures, including a bill for a Homestead Exemption Act for senior citizens. She successfully ran for reelection and was recommended to serve on the Tax Committee by both Democratic and Republican house leaders. Against all custom and protocol, the chairman of the Tax Committee blocked her membership, stating, “Women dont know anything about taxes.” That rejection led to her focus on gender discrimination for the remainder of her life. Mrs. Graham then introduced a bill requiring equal pay for equal work, an Equal Rights bill, and an anti-discrimination bill. Harriet introduced the bill to add an equal rights clause into the Kansas State constitution and that bill passed. During this period, President Kennedy appointed a National Committee on the Status of Women, with the governor of each state forming its own commission. Governor Robert Docking appointed Harriet head of the Kansas Commission and while Chairperson she lobbied for a legislative endorsement of the Equal Rights Amendment to the U.S. Constitution. The Kansas Legislature did ratify the ERA. Despite the demands of a successful political career, Harriet managed to raise her son William, Jr. and daughters Deborah and Laura, in the process being a leader in Bluebird//Campfire Girls and Cub Scouts, coach of a girls softball team, and participating in community theatre. She also began her lifelong love of birding and canoeing. After divorce in 1969 Harriet earned her Bachelor of Arts degree from Wichita State University in 1972, attending some classes concurrently with her son and daughter, and moved to Topeka. In Topeka she served as a Contract Compliance Officer with the Kansas Commission on Civil Rights and began work on a Masters Degree at the University of Kansas which she was awarded in 1977. In 1978 Harriet returned to Waynesville, Missouri and became a teacher at Wood Middle School, retiring at the age 70. In Waynesville she continued to be politically active, lobbying for Missouris ratification of the ERA. She served on the Waynesville Library Board and travelled extensively throughout the world with friends and family. She actively researched the family history in Missouri from the early nineteenth century and began attending the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship in Rolla, following her Unitarian heroes, Thomas Jefferson and Susan B. Anthony. Harriet returned to Wichita 2003 following the death of her two sisters, Grace Wheeler Smith and Jane Wheeler Sullivan. Harriet is survived by her son William Graham, Jr. (Isabelle) of Peynier, France, daughters Deborah Lynch (Martin), of Santa Barbara, California and Laura Graham of Los Angeles, California, grandchildren Brett Graham (Dana), Michele Capps, Rebecca Williams (Robert), all of Wichita, and Andrea Lewis (Phillip) of Woodland Hills, California, eleven great grandchildren and two great-great grandchildren. Funeral Services will be held at 3:00 p.m. on Tuesday, May 11, 2010 at First Unitarian Universalist Church of Wichita and a second memorial service will be held in Waynesville at 11:00 a.m. on Friday, May 14 at The Memorial Chapel and Crematory, Waynesville MO. Internment will be in the family plot at Waynesville Memorial Cemetery. The family requests that, in lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Harriet Graham Memorial Scholarship for Womens Studies at W.S.U., 1845 Fairmount, P.O. Box 2, Wichita, KS 67260.
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I am 63 now but can remember from the age of 9 – 12, taking my turn in the family calling ‘Harriet Graham, Clerk of the District Court’ when our mother was at work, to see if our child support check had come in. Mostly it never had, but back then Harriet answered the call and was always very kind to me.
My name is William Minner. I am the Executive Director of the Kansas Human Rights Commission. The agency enforces the State of Kansas anti-discriminaiton laws. I met Harriet in 1973 when she worked for the Kansas Commission on Civil Rights, now the Kansas Human Rights Commission. Harriet worked for the Commission starting November 13, 1973 through August 18, 1978. She held the position of investigator/contract compliance administrator. She was the individual responsible for the enforcement of anti-discrimination laws in the hiring of women and minorities in the Kansas construction industry. She was dedicated and committed to the equal treatment and equal opportunities for women and minorities in the construction industry. She would not back down. She would often tell me that some of the construction representatives would attempt to bully her into their way of thinking and circumvent the law that she was required to enforce. And, she said that when these incidents would occur, she would ask them, ‘What is your boss’s name? Who do you report to?’ She would say that when she asked that, they would calm down and talk more sensible. I often think about her when I happen upon a construction site on a Kansas highway or a state or local building project when I see both males and females and racial minorities on those job sites working. Harriet worked to make this possible. With deepest sympathy, William V. Minner
The pain and grief of losing a loved one in death can seem unbearable. At such times, God’s Word can give us comfort. (2 Corinthians 1:3,4) The Bible helps us to understand how our Creator and his Son feel about death. Jesus, who perfectly reflected his Father, knew the pain of losing someone in death. (John 14:9) May the family find comfort, hope and encouragement from God’s Word the Bible.
Dear Deborah, Laura and Bill, My first introduction to your mother was in Santa Barbara when she showed up on Deborah’s doorstep with a backpack. She had just returned from backpacking around Europe. The adventuresome spirit obviously runs in the family. I’m so sorry I didn’t know her better and especially that my mother didn’t get to meet her. I know they would have been compadres. My thoughts are with you all today. Love, Ann