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Heiman, Melissa Dawn “Missy”, 42, wife and mother, passed away February 14, 2005 at home after a five and one half year battle with cancer fought with courage, determination and the love and support of countless friends. Survivors: husband, Mark; sons, Erick, Blake and Grant; parents, Mike and Darlene Herring; sister, Cristy Anderson, all of Wichita. Services will be held Friday, February 18, 10:00 A.M. at Pleasant Valley United Methodist Church. Memorial in lieu of flowers: Pleasant Valley United Methodist Church, 1600 W. 27th St., Wichita, KS, 67204. Downing Lahey Mortuary East.
In lieu of flowers, a memorial has been established with Pleasant Valley United Methodist Church.
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To the Herring and Heiman Families: Missy was a true friend as we grew up within the Pleasant Valley Family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time of sorrow. God Bless You All Brent Kendall
To Missy’s Family I was so surprised to hear about Missy’s passing. Missy was always in my prayers. Even when I heard that her cancer came back. She will continue to be in my prayers still. I will pray for you, too. I will pray that Gods Love will bring you some peace during this time of loss. Take care. God be with you all. Nick and Sarah Dondlinger
Mike, Darlene, Cristy and Family, What a Great, Great, Great sadness that we here on earth have lost such a beautiful person! I am so thankful Missy’s walking on those streets of gold and not hurting any more, but I know how much it hurts for us left here on earth. Mike and Darlene, you raised two wonderful daughters, beautiful on the inside and out, and I am so sorry you have to experience this pain. Cristy, I know you must feel like a part of you is gone and I am so sorry for that. Our love and prayers for you all. Not only did you all see Ashlee grow up, but we saw Missy and Cristy mature into two lovely ladies, get married, and have children. Missy was such a wonderful mother and her children so cute and well behaved, but oh, so happy! Everything Missy did, she did well. She did it carefully and she did it the best she could. Even being sick and dying. We her friends, her school, her church, her neighbors, . . Wichita has been cheated by losing Missy so young. Missy was a fashion plate, even in every day clothing and had beautiful skin and a natural beauty. She was always so proper, alwlays so helpful, always so giving, always so thoughtful. She was the mom in the preschool who thought to bring cookies to her child’s teacher. We do not know why God took her so young, or why she suffered so on this earth, but we do know that God’s plan is the only right plan and we just have to trust Him. Please let us know if there is anything, anything at all we can do for any of you. My father is 91 and lives in Pratt, Kansas, and I have to go today to take him to the doctor so I can not be at the funeral. If there were any way I could have changed it, I would have. I am so sorry. My God Bless and be with you all. Our love abounds to you. Richard, Becky and Ashlee Green
To The Heiman Family,It is going to take time for you to heal for Missy has touched so many peoples lives. Missy was a wonderful, giving and loving person. She has done so much for Hyde School and in spite of her long illness, she wouldn’t give up. She had so much love for the Lord and her family, She will be missed. Eric, Blake, and Grant, I want to say to you that life and death are in the power of Gods hands you mom lived then passed on, while she was here, she lived a beautiful life that contained both joy and strife. She left you memories to cherish for she made sure that her children were raised in the knowledge of God and instilling in you moral values, for she had so much love for each one of you and one day you will see her loving face. May God Bless each and everyone of you. My prayers are with you. Lori Hollins
Missy was the first parent to greet me when my son, Noah Handrich, started kindergarten last year. I always admired her vivacious, bubbly personality. A lot of what I knew of Missy was by observance. It wasn’t difficult to perceive that she was a genuinely kind person. The was no hint of presumption in her. She seemed to me to be the kind of person who seized each moment of her day and made light of even the mundane things. I will never forget her dedication to her children and how involved she was in their education. She was a lovely model to all the parents at Hyde. She set a precedent of practicality and comittment, but her love shone the brightest of all. Sadly, she will never know how much I admired her. I hope that by reading this, her closest family and friends will feel a sense of peace and hope and less grief over her loss. She has left us such a beautiful legacy. There is no doubt, her memory is strong in the hearts of many. It will live on. April Handrich-Schlenker April Handrich-Schlenker
To Mark, and Sons, Mike & Darlene Richard & I both want to say how sorry we both are, that Missy’s long battle, is over. Mark, we don’t know how you will raise 3 little boys all by yourself, but Mike & Darlene will be there to help. We will be unable to attend Missy’s funeral, as Richard has Dr. Appt the same time on Friday, to see his surgeon, after his release from the Hospital. We both keep all of you in our prayers and know she is now in the hands of God.
We know Missy is in Heaven and looking over you. We hope this comforts you. Keep Missy’s memories alive and never forget her as we will never forget her. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. All our love – Brent and Tammi
Dear Mark: I was so saddened when Olivia called to let me know that your dear wife had passed away. I have now learned that she had battled cancer for quite some time so I know it’s been hard for you and your children. Although I didn’t know her, she sounded like a very wonderful and courageous woman and will be missed by all. I shared the loss with my family last night and we will continue to pray for God’s comfort and healing in your sorrow. Brad Smisor
Dear Cristy and the Heiman Family: We are so sorry for your loss and you have our deepest sympathy. Lawyers Pulling Strings (Laura Ice, Kathy Webb, Kari Schmidt, Pauletta Hinkle, Paul McCausland, Jerry Hawkins, Kathi Babcock)
Mark, Eric, Blake and Grant; I want you to know you are in my heart and prayers. If I can do anything at all for you please let me know-however big or small. You guys need to know what a mentor your mom was to me. Because of her and her example, I am the Hyde volunteer I am today. Her light, love, and enthusiasm will always guide me as I know it will you also. She was a guiding force that will long be remembered.
I was so shocked to read of Missy’s passing in the paper today. I had lost touch with her but thought of her often as my parents still live by Pleasant Valley school and I always wondered if her parents still lived there. I always said I was going to get a hold of her and never did. I will always regret this. I remember Missy mostly from PV junior high. Her locker was by mine. I remember her huge smile and how she always had a way of making my day a great one. I was happy when Miss Bing put us together in gym class when we were doing modern dance. We had a great routine and I remember having a blast practicing. Missy made us work until we had it perfect and we got an A. It was perfect. Missy was very popular and when I invited her to my slumber party I never expected her to come but she did. We stayed up all night and talked about our ‘dream date’ with Shawn Cassidy. But she was very practical and burst my bubble when she told me it would never happen. I thought she didnt know what she was talking about at the time but it turned out she was right. I did not have the priviledge of know her as a wife and mother but I have no doubt that she was the best at both. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Our memeories of Miss I’m sure, will turn out to be our greatest treasure.
Darlene, Mike and Cristy – we were so saddened to see that Missy lost her gallant and courageous fight. We have wonderful memories of both girls and will always hold those memories close in our hearts. Our prayers are with you.
Mark, Although we do not know each other, I just want to tell you that I too feel your pain. I am so sorry for you loss. I too lost my wife, Mary, just three weeks ago to a similar disease. She was only 44 years old. When I read about the loss of your wife I felt compelled to write this. I am not trying to intrude into your life. As I said I am someone who knows how you feel and I am so sorry. May the peace that God provides fill your heart. If you would like to talk sometime just give me a call or e-mail. Sincerely, Loyd Oakley 729-9084 lomar1@prodigy.net
Dear Heiman and Herring Family – I currently live in the Washington DC area, but a longtime friend who still resides in Wichita told me of Missy’s passing. I was a classmate and friend of Cristy’s throughout jr. high and high school; although we have lost touch over the years, that would not stop me from extending my heartfelt sympathy and condolences. My prayers are with your entire family, may memories of a better time with Melissa ease your sorrow.
Missy was one of my students at WSU in the early to mid 1980s. She was an excellent student! I was saddened to read of her death. I have no doubt she leaves a legacy of hard work, caring and love for her family and friends.
Mark, Darlene, Mike, Cristy and Brent: I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Cristy, I know how close you and Missy were. Darlene, I know how you wished you could cure Missy’s illness. Celebrate Missy’s life as you remain the close family that you always have been.
Missy was an inspiration to us all. We are very sorry for your loss. Her strength and determination will be sorely missed at Hyde. We are happy to have known such an incredible person. The Dames – Mike, Kathy, Ryan and Dani
Dear Mark & Boys and Mike & Darlene, We were saddened by the news of Missy’s death. You are in our prayers. Chuck & Jan Hadley
Dear Darlene, Mike, Cristy & family: I’m not sure you remember us…the 2 little ‘fat’ boys…David and Daniel Stras and mom, Andrea. I think of you all so often, wondering how everyone is doing. I learned just last evening of Missy’s death from my friend, Elaine Harris of Dandurand. I am so sorry and wish you all my love and prayers. She is now in a better place; free of pain. For those she left behind, may you be blessed with only loving memories of a wonderful person who fought an amazing battle. My prayers and love, Andrea Stras
Richard & I both are so sorry to read in the paper this morning, of Missy’s passing into the arms of God. She was the strongest person, I know, that never let you know she was in pain. Always had a smile. We are so sorry of your loss.
Dear Mark and Family, We are saddened about the loss of your wife and you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Mark, Erick, Blake and Grant- May God Hold You in the Palm of His Hand. May God Bless You With Faith and Peace. The Tom McGrath Family
Dear Blake- I am very sorry to hear about your mom. My prayers are with you and your family. Your friend, Trevor Lathrop